Forgive and forget - you will be happier

There is accumulating research which shows that the old adage "forgive but don't forget" is wrong. People who forget after forgiving are happier, less stressed, and function better. What does not forgetting do? I think it helps people hold onto their fear of being hurt again and they continue to be defensive and close hearted.

Having said that, I think it is important to make a distinction between forgiveness and reconciliation. These are two different things. We can forgive someone, and yet not want to associate with them further. It boils down to "I forgive you. Good bye"

There is some new research which shows that forgiving and forgetting is a good strategy for dealing with symptoms of PTSD.

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